Imagine if we turned on the evening news broke the story of driving through a special bulletin: we are all dead at this time tomorrow! Panic would be uncontrollable and indescribable anguish.
Yet the fact is that we will all die one day. Then, because there is no panic or anxiety in the world? As we all deal with the stress of knowing that one day he will die. It's called denial of death: we live in every moment and in any given day, as if we were going to die.
A closer look reveals, however, that there are more than a simple denial. We focus on our day of activities and challenges. We compartmentalize our thoughts center of what we are doing at any given time of concentration. We live in the present moment, to recognize that yesterday is gone and tomorrow has not arrived yet.
Sometimes we think about death and dying. Sometimes we talk about our death with our loved ones or a doctor or a lawyer. The denial of death to live each day is not complete and tight, but just enough to make this a good day: very practical and effective, this mechanism of denial.
Manage stress for many who come to us every day just following the existing model with respect to the denial of death's approach to spreading and being in the moment. Why is it so difficult to deal with stress? Because we have so much tension and because many of our stressors are complex. But because they do not usually what comes naturally: the approach to separate and live in the present. Those in recovery groups know the importance of this habit. "It was then, but now" becomes the mantra.
The awareness that one day we will die is a problem. This is all the time, every day. We are familiar with it and we deal with over and over again. We see and hear to treat others with it. Although it is the most stressful of all human events, we very well most of the time.
In contrast, other stress factors are variations: Today we stress is money and pay the bills, but tomorrow is our job, so it is for the health of our children, or the economy or the lawn or a church or flood or fire. There are also related stressors. They come in batches.
For example, paying bills, puts us in the minds of job security, the economy, the cost of food and gasoline, our pension fund or its absence, the stock market, the subprime mortgage crisis home, inflation, children's shoes. It is not stressful (anxiety) that does not involve other stressors in a way. And the learning needs revolve around how to apply the natural process of stress-related stress management complex.
Stress management training in the workplace, see the coach, should begin to separate work from home. It 'important to clarify the stress factors of each other. The organization begins by putting one of the stressors in our lives or another, at work or home. Part of the challenge at work is that the problems in the workplace must be addressed and solved all times and not our time. Problems must be solved as they arise, if people are up to the task or not. However paradoxical it may seem, it takes special skills and behaviors to manage stress in the workplace, it is natural!
The old say first: It is not events, but our reaction to events that shape the character and determine our expectations. This wisdom is as relevant today as it was thousands of years ago.
Unless we are careful, we really do not see things as they are but as we are.
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